Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Love/Hate
2010: A New Decade
The Abnormal is Normal
Christmas in India
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Why I love my Flatmate
Always Tripping
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
The Hog’s Ride
Just a normal day, hopping into a rickshaw to get home after work. I am riding on the IIT flyover when I see two guys on a motorbike...Normal…with what looks like a dead hog in the middle of them…Not Normal. The guy in the back has the hog on its back arched over his lap and he seems to be tickling its neck when all of the sudden the thing starts kicking and wiggling. The driver tries to maintain focus and balance as this thing is thrashing about and the little man holding it is desperately trying to calm it before they all topple over. I was transfixed. I watched helplessly and could not turn away. Were they going to crash, would my auto stop in time to avoid hitting them? Does no one else find this strange or disturbing?
Finally, somehow the man was able to suppress the hog and the driving went back to normal and they proceeded out of my sight.
These are the days that I appreciate how strange of a place that I am in.
What Do You Mean?
This question seems to haunt my life here. I think that I am getting along fine until I realize how many times a day I ask this question. You don’t realize how much you are learning on a daily basis even when you are not trying to. India just bombards your mind and senses and it is no wonder that I am so mentally exhausted by the end of the day even when I didn’t think that I accomplished much.
Monday, November 2, 2009
Happy Birthday Grandma!
Monday, October 26, 2009
Brutally Honest
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Drugs, Techno Music and Serial Killers
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Diwali
Wednesday, October 7, 2009
Karva Chauth
Monday, October 5, 2009
Fat Fee and Gasping Lungs
Just like when on a long flight at high altitude your feet start to swell…well mine have yet to return to a normal state after the long drive at high altitude to Shimla this weekend.
Highlights of Shimla:
- Checked off my first India page in the “1000 Things to See Before you Die” book.
- Seeing a man with an entire refrigerator strapped to his back, brand new in the box with the new customers following behind.
- Horseback riding up a mountain
- Spending 1.5 hours in the local Police Station
Shilma is a hill station north of Delhi by a 10 hour car ride, longer if you hit traffic. It took 12 hours up and 9 on the way down. Gravity and flying down the hills helped the return situation. It was settled by the British in the 1840s. It looked like a little colonial village transplanted to the hills of rural China. Figures that it would look that way since I wasn’t too far from the boarder. It was much cooler than Delhi and I def didn’t pack properly or warm enough.
If it seems like I have been traveling a lot recently, you are correct. It is the holiday season here in India and Friday was Gandhi’s birthday so it was a national holiday. I found myself waking up at 5:30 after I was up until 2:00am while Todd hacked into my computer and tried to remotely fix my still sadly broken iPhone. Wha! I jumped into the car with the brother of the driver that we had last weekend and we took off of a long journey north of the city and into the hills.
When we hit the hills we started winding and skidding up the switchbacks flying by huge trucks and squeezing into places that I never though possible. We had only 5 near-death experiences and I was really wishing that I had a seatbelt. I know – not what you want to hear mom but at least he wasn’t wearing one either. Funny how I am glad that he was not wearing one. If he was and I was not I would feel much more vulnerable. I find a disturbing comfort in the fact that if we crash he would be launched further than me, so in my mind he is going to make sure to drive safely.
To make the driving situation even better, half-way up the mountains it starts torrentially down pouring. I was distracted by the side window and trying to see the sights through it when Alex started to ask me, “what you call those things that fall from the sky, the little balls of snow.” I reluctantly said, “hail?” “Yeah,” he said, “that’s what it is doing right now.” I looked at the huge droplets and sure enough it was hailing.
As soon as we pulled into the city our Driver Amrik asked us where we were staying…like I said we didn’t really plan this out too well or have a guide so we said we didn’t know and to have someone recommend one. Either a good move or dangerous one depending on the locals deals with the hotels. You can get scammed pretty easily this way, but we took a chance. Two guys, one in his 40 and maybe his father took our stuff and started leading us up these tiny stairways and through the streets of the markets. We had to walk quickly to keep up and make sure that they didn’t take off with our stuff. Luckily they stopped and waited when the flow of people would allow and made sure that the huffing and puffing tourists were still behind them. This is a good time to remind you that we were at a significantly high altitude and my asthma and Alex’s smoker lungs were both struggling.
We tried about 4 hotels and most of them either didn’t have space or they only had the super expensive presidential suites. It was a holiday long weekend and the pickings were slim. We finally decided on a place that had a great view but only a bucket shower (you pour the water out of the spicket and use a pouring cup to shower). Checking in is always something I dread. You have to have your passport and go through an interrogation…where are you from, when did you get here what is your passport number, visa number, husband’s or father’s name, relation to the person you are with…married…to avoid awkward stares and judgments. It was per Saabira’s advice. Then the next step, your address. “Delhi? You live here?” Citizenship – American. The hotel guy said, “no, you can’t have a Dehli address…are you Indian?” “no, American, but I live here.” “No you can’t, you are Indian then?” “No I am American, but I live here.” This went on for far too long and is always more difficult than needs to be.
We were the most excited for Jakhu hill the highest point in Shimla where there is a temple to the monkey god Hanuman. We struggled up the climb while men in their 50’s where shuffling by with grace and their tongues still in their mouths. The top was well worth it with the morning light hitting the orange and red flags. It was also perfectly accentuated with tons of menacing monkeys. Locals actually carried sticks to bang on the ground and scare them away. I was convinced that they were going to jump and attack me and for the first time I was regretting not getting my third rabies shot.
There was one local kid about 17 years old who was obsessed with Alex and me. He introduced himself and then his father, and then asked if we would take his picture. After we did he shook each of our hands followed by a bear-hug. I wasn’t expecting that at all and he kind of knocked the wind out of me. Later in the day he found us again heading down the hill. He grabbed my hand again and started jogging down the mountain. I started running with him at first, but fearing crashing on my face I was able to wriggle my hand out of his. I needed a distraction to stop running before I tripped so I asked him if I could take his picture. He immediately bear-hugged me again and then asked for a kiss on the cheek. I thought it was strange, but humored him and then he turned his other cheek and pointed to it for Alex to kiss! He did. The boy was so happy, that he laughed and went off running down the mountain smiling. I don’t know what happened there, but I think that we made his year
At this point it was only 9:30 so we called our driver and he took us to Kurfi where we could see a higher vantage point. I turned out to be a huge tourist trap and before long Alex and I were seated on horses and headed up a hill. Don’t ask. It was a fun experience trudging up the side of a muddy cliff. Alex’s horse was old and had to basically be dragged while mine led the way and ran into other horses almost knocking me off a few times. All in a day’s fun.
When we got the to top as always there were tons and tons of people asking to take photos of us. At this point we both decided that it was just that people were curious and there was no real harm. Right as we were leaving tired and ready to go home one guy asked for a photo. I said yes, and the next thing I know there were 15 people around Alex and I posing. I had my camera bag on my back…can you guess where this is going…when the picture was done I went to call the driver and my camera bag was unzipped and my phone (my flatmates borrowed phone) was gone.
That was the first time that I felt violated here. I had let down my guard since I had been in so many pictures and there were no repercussions. I was just frustrated and more than anything just felt really guilty for losing my flatmates phone. It was our only contact with our driver and every single car here is white or silver. Luckily I have pretty good attention to detail and was able to hike through three parking lots and identify our car.
We tried to go to the Kurfi police to fill out a report, but they were very unhelpful and didn’t believe me. They kept saying, “you lost it? Are you sure it didn’t fall out on the ride? What about your driver, could he have snatched it?” No, no, no, it was stolen! I tried to call it with Alex’s phone and whoever had it turned it off so I couldn’t get through. I then had to drive down the mountain and go to the Dhalli police station. I walked into a room of 7 people sitting around, only 2 in uniform and told them the story. Together they came up with the right questions and had my write out on a piece of paper so they could type it up. They kept saying that they were going to start the investigation tomorrow and that I had to come back up and it was going to be difficult because there were no suspects to identify. There was an obvious communication block. I didn’t expect to see the phone again, I just wanted an official and stamped piece of paper saying that it was stolen to take to the phone company and to insurance if anything could be covered. 1.5 hours later I left with a stamped paper, and 7 new friends who were apologizing for the experience.
On the way home we decided to drive up to Summer Hill where Gandhi used to live when he was in Shimla. On the hill is the gorgeous old Viceregal Lodge that is part of the Indian Institute of Advanced Studies. It is where the old British Government would spend the summer months. 6 months in Shimla and 6 months in Bombay/Mumbai. It was just too hot in Mumbai in the summers so they headed to the hills. I really wanted to see this place, but we left Shimla at 6 am and the place didn’t open until 9:30. Luckily our driver picked up a local guide on the way and he talked his way into showing us around. He came in and gave us a tour since he convinced the guards that we were his visitors. He showed us around and didn’t even ask for any money in return. What a nice way to end a great trip.
We left the weekend on such a high note feeling rejuvenated by the mountains and fresh air, aka the light headedness of altitude sickness…no it was so beautiful and an amazing experience and I would love to go back there in the future. But for now, back to the hustle, bustle and pollution of the busy city.
Friday, October 2, 2009
Thoughts from the Car
Sunday, September 27, 2009
When Life Gives you Lemons…
This weekend was my first weekend trip outside of the city. My roommates and I have been planning for some time now to go to a city in Rajasthan called Udaipur. It is the “City of Lakes” and called the Venice of India. We bought our train tickets and were preparing ourselves for our first Indian overnight train. I heard was a complete experience in its own. We get to the train station early only to find out that our tickets say that we are waitlisted and there is absolutely no space on the train to upgrade or downgrade. Nothing. We stood there and watched as our train and our weekend plans chug, chugged away from us.
Determined to make something of the weekend we all went home, all grabbed our computers and guidebooks and sat in my room calling friends, and researching places that we could get to see enough of and return home in two days and still be close enough to Jaipur where Saabria was meeting her parents on Monday. Not the easiest project. We decided on Sariska Tiger Park. We called a service, found a driver and arranged for an early 6 am pick-up.
We got about an hour outside of Delhi when we hit a major traffic jam. There was a queue of brightly painted and decorated trucks pulled to the side of the road for miles. We tried to go around them by finding back roads but just ran into a blocked road every way we went. Our driver Mansihgn was asking everyone he could for alternative routes and what is one person’s business is everyone’s business. People were all listening to the issue and throwing out suggestions. Everyone was willing to help. It was great. Finally we t-boned an auto (rickshaw) driver and he offered to lead the way. He was local and also needed to get through the traffic. He is navigating these little routes until we found ourselves driving through the middle of a market! In traffic no rules apply. Desperate not to fall behind our new traffic savior Mansighn jumped out of the car and moved a table below the tent that we were driving under to get by.
Once back on the main road there were random people from the town who had jumped out onto the road to direct the traffic. It was such a mess. The thing is, that there are so many people and a traffic jam just creates something for many people to do so strangers are more than willing to help. In a strange way I started to feel like part of a community with these random people and their kind deeds.
The roads are such a mess and there is a whole form of communication that I quickly learned. If you are behind a truck you will go onto the other side of the road to pass it. A honk behind the truck means you are going to pass it. Many honks when you are beside the truck means either you are pushing me off the road or you need to slow down so I can cut in front before I hit this car head on. If you are on the correct side of the road going with the flow of traffic and you flash your lights you are acknowledging that you see that car coming at you. If you flash your lights when you are on the wrong side of the road it means that you are telling the car in front of you that you are heading at them and they better slow down and not hit you before you can cut over. We slammed on the breaks and avoided being smashed by trucks more times than I would like to admit, but somehow these crazy drivers are so skilled that you start to relax. I mean, I did so much that I fell asleep for a majority of the ride.
The lives of the people in the country are so different than those of the people in the city. You see the women in their colorful saris carrying grass, sticks, and tools on their heads while the men are sleeping the day away…okay not all, but it is known that in the poor communities it is the women who do the manual labor and the men have an easier situation. Of course this is a complete generalization, but Alex said that he wanted us to point it out to him if we see one man lifting anything…and we couldn’t the entire ride.
We got to the park at 12:30 after a long ride of horrible roads and found out that our 5 year old lonely planet had wrong info and the park closed at 4 and there were no safari’s until the season started next weekend. Saabira just looked at us and said, “this is just not our weekend” It was starting to feel that way until we headed to the park and drove around seeing Monkeys, Peacocks and a Leopard! It was so wild and kind of scary even though we were in a car. I wasn’t expecting that at all since there were rumors that there were no more tigers living in Sariska because of poaching. It totally redeemed the weekend for everyone in the car!
From there we headed to Siliserh where there was a lake to relax at. We went out on a paddle boat ride to watch the sun set. It was so calming and it was a nice way to end the night. After reading in the guide book that there were hotels that said, “single women will feel uncomfortable here” we decided to ask more locals for recommendations. We found a great hotel with a great terrace and we settled down for the night.
The next morning we read about a fort (Bala Quila) up in the hills the next town over in Alwar. Little did we know that this was going to be a trip less about the destination and more about a cultural experience. It was a religious holiday weekend and we were headed to a place with not one, but two temples on it. We walked for hours flanked on all sides at all times with an entourage of 20-30 people following us; old and young, men and women. Although it was always the men who were trying to talk and laugh. If ever encountered alone or asked a question that they don’t know, trust me the group confidence quickly subsides into embarrassment. The attention was funny at first, but by the third hour of it, I didn’t want to be asked what country I was from, if Alex with his long blonde hair was a boy or girl or if was I “enjoying?” I just wanted to walk in peace and stop being harassed and having my picture taken. Motorbikes were driving too close and honking and I just wanted out. Saabira was frustrated that she couldn’t go anywhere with her flatmates without all of the attention. It really can stop you from enjoying the peaceful atmosphere.
All in all it was an interesting weekend to say the least. We didn’t want to just let one slow rolling train ride off with our fun, so we made the best of the situation and ended up having a great weekend. I will tell you one thing. I will never go back to Alwar and their non-touristy area. It was just too much attention and I am all set with the celebrity life for quite some time.
Thursday, September 24, 2009
Off the Grid
Monday, September 21, 2009
Smelly Delhi
I am Legal!
Monday, September 14, 2009
Don't Yuck My Yum
I have been being told since day one...don't eat the street food. You don't know how long it has been there and how sanitary it is, so of course I couldn't resist. I was at the Sarojini Nagar Market the first time I tried Gol Gappa. I was kind of hungry and with my roommate Saabs who said casually, want to try this? Trustingly I was hoping that she wouldn't put my stomach or health in danger, so I said yes. The guy gave us two little tin bowls and he took a tiny puff pastry, shoved something that looked like potatoes inside, and then dunked it in broth and served it bare-handed to our bowls. Saabs looks at me and says pop the whole thing in your mouth at once like sushi. I did and it was quite good. I thought we were just getting one, but I soon found that as soon as you were finished he would just pop another on in the tin. I think that we got 6 each not a bad deal.
So there is still so much to try and I haven't even ventured that far into the options. I am sure there will be many more delicious tries and some that will be disastrous, but for now good night, and remember don't ever yuck someones yum, especially if you haven't tried it yourself.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Not Giving into Peer Pressure
I am so incredibly inspired by my new job. I know that I am working for the same company, but it is a whole different ball game and I am so intrigued by every little aspect of it. It was exactly what I needed, a new challenge thrown in my face. I just want to learn as much as possible so that I can excel. I am going back to the basics and I feel like such a nerd. My room is filled with books about India. I play with Google maps every night and stand in front of my Delhi city map on my was pronouncing the names of the markets and areas. My roommate has already told me on multiple occasions that my Hindi pronunciations are horrendous and I should be ashamed.
I just read the Namesake in three days, I am looking into Rosetta Stone to learn Hindi and tonight I decided not to go out dancing and drinking so I could stay in and read articles on negotiation and business to business selling…like I said, I am really cool!! (I thought that deserved two). But it’s strange; I just can’t get enough learning about it all. I want to know the culture; I want to figure out the art of bartering and being able to completely connect so I can get the sale. How am I supposed to teach it, and at that – confidently if I don’t know that I myself can do it. So here begins my journey.
Many of the schools are for-profit businesses and they see every thing that is presented to them as an opportunity to make money and better their business. Principals want to know what they can get out of it and management wants to make sure that the tours are really going to make them more marketable to the students and the parents who pay the tuition that they are all competing for. This is different than in the states, where “it’s for the children” In Boston we trash talk the greedy teachers who are doing it to make money, secretly admiring their gusto. Here in India where it is expected that everything is negotiable, it is expected that when we present a price, the school will push back saying, "okay I see that. Is this the Price that you give to all of the schools? Now what can you do for me." What is the answer to this? Well what I am quickly learning is that it does really depend on the school, their prestige and how we can use their name in our next sales pitch.
After going to the market for the weekend with my new roommate I am learning that she is a fierce negotiator - and Hindi isn't even her first language. I now have a goal to have her come work for my company. Either that; or she will have to teach me everything that she knows. I asked her what her secret is. She said that she just says no. I followed up by saying well what if you don’t know what the cost is, and she said that you just have to learn over time and trust your judgment of whether they are cheating you or not. The only problem she continued, is that when they are being honest and you try to bargain too much it will teach them to have a higher price at the start. It's a vicious cycle because everyone thinks that they are being cheated and no one trusts anyone. That's why relationships and referrals are so important here.
Okay, well I am off to read my “Getting to Yes” book by Fisher, Ury and Patton Second Edition that I bought at the Harvard Coop and brought all the way here with me just in case I found myself in a position like I am in tonight. Feeling like a nerd!